Cultivating Self-Love and Positive Body Image


“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
~Neale Donald Walsch

 I have noticed a theme lately in my life, I keep hearing these words through other coaches, bloggers or friends.  It’s always about stepping out of my comfort zone which is where the magic begins.

I actually believe this, I’ve seen it happen with myself and with friends, yet it’s still a struggle to get out of the comfort zone. You see as long as I’m in the comfort zone I know what to expect, nothing changes much which in itself can be very comforting.  We even get used to bad situations in the comfort zone.

This was my experience right before I got sober, I lived with a man who drank, we were both heavy drinkers and our relationship was volatile to say the least.  I stayed because in spite of  our rocky relationship I knew what to expect.   By the grace of God he ended up leaving me after 5 years for another woman he had met one night in a bar.  I was heartbroken, I was quickly thrown out of my home and out of my comfort zone (as negative as that was).

I continued to drink hard but the drinking just didn’t seem to fix the heartbreak, misery and fear that enveloped me.  I decided it was time to get sober even if it was just for a short time as I had developed pneumonia and I was exhausted from all the drinking and partying I had done after the breakup.  I went into a 6-month in-house treatment facility and about 6 weeks into it I lay in bed one night and I started to cry, I cried hard tears of joy because I realized I was finally free of that life with him and all that it entailed.  I was finally free and on my way to a new journey.  I was so grateful that he left me because I would have stayed till who knows when and maybe I would not have gotten sober or lived the life I live today.  Who knows what the outcome would have been had I stayed but I am relieved that it turned out the way it did.

Our First Date

Our First Date

I also stepped out of my comfort zone when I met my husband online 7 years ago and I decided to meet him in New York City 4 months later for our first date.  Please note that it took 4 months of daily calls, skype and emails to feel like I knew him enough to take the chance and I felt safe to go meet him in person.  Yes it was a risk but he was so worth it.  Had I not taken that step out of my comfort zone where would I be? I’d never have the blessing of stepchildren and grandchildren whom I love all my heart and they all love me back.  Nor would I have the wonderful relationship I have with this man who makes me laugh, feel loved and treasured every single day.

I could go on and on with examples on how I stepped out of my comfort zone and the rewards I reaped from it.  Not only in love but in my career as well, heck even how I lost weight was stepping out of my comfort zone and going against conventional wisdom.  If I were to take the time to actually write down every time I stepped out of my comfort zone and the success it’s brought me I’m sure I’d do it more often… How about you? Do you have a story about stepping out of your comfort zone and how it brought you success? Please feel free to share it by either hitting reply in the email or posting a comment below.

I would love to read your stories!

To your health with love


I sleep deeply

I sleep deeply

I don’t know about you but I have not been getting nearly enough sleep lately.  It might have to do with the fact that I’ve spent the last three months either preparing, interviewing or setting up for my telesummit.  Since June sleep has taken a backseat and I know better.  Now that it’s over let’s see if I can remedy that.

Let’s take a look at how much sleep we need, personally I need a minimum of 7 hours but thrive on 8.  I was once told the older we get the less sleep we need but my mind and body beg to differ, I seem to require much more than I used to years ago.  If I don’t get enough sleep (we’re talking 6 or less hours) it shows up in my personality and it’s just a matter of time before I become cranky.  So being aware I do my best to avoid that.  I can occasionally suffer from an occasional case of insomnia, usually as a result of “thinking” too much or being excited about something.   But it only happens once or twice a month maximum.

Many studies have shown that the lack of sleep has many detrimental effects on our health, it can cause heart disease, age our skin and a whole host of other boo boo’s.  Yet we still don’t take enough time to get our rest.

As a child and an adult my lack of interest in all things sleep stemmed from a fear of missing out.  I didn’t like sleeping in because that meant there were hours during the day I would lose doing something I considered productive, whereas sleep was a waste of time.  I never napped, I come from a napping family and live with a napping spouse.  So to teach my body and my mindset that it’s ok to get rest had been a task but one I felt compelled to take on.

How do I do it?  I start by going to bed at the same time every night.  I get up between 6-6:30 so if I do the math I must be in bed by 10-10:30pm, that doesn’t always sit well with me, but I’ve learned to enjoy letting my body rest.

Some of the rewards I get out of a good night’s sleep;

  • Good mood
  • Better handle on the day ahead
  • Deadlines are much easier to meet
  • Healthier sex drive

There are so many reasons to get that rest! I look better when I get a good night’s sleep, those dark circles are lighter, eyes less puffy and another bonus is that my body seems to be able to digest food better and here’s another thing whenever I get a good night of sleep I’m not craving junk food!  I believe; when we start taking better care of our bodies through a good night’s sleep, exercise (walking, strength training or whatever gets your body moving) then the body starts to instinctively know what it needs or wants to eat.

So there are many reasons to get that good night’s sleep!  If you need to start slowly then do that but start.  You can start by going to bed 15 minutes (or heck 10 minutes) earlier than you normally do.  Just do that for the week and see how that works for you.  Try it.  You won’t be sorry you got a good night’s sleep.

I’ll be covering more tips on how you can get a good night’s sleep in my next blog post!