Cultivating Self-Love and Positive Body Image

5thingsyoudidntknowaboutmeToday’s post is a little different, you see I want to get to know you better, I want to know what makes you tick, what are your fears, successes and I believe in order for you to trust me with that some of you might want to get to know me a bit better.  So today’s post is called 5 things you didn’t know about ME!   Here we go…

Number 1 – I am perfectly bilingual, I come from Montreal Quebec and in Grade 2 I started going to a French school.  Being from Quebec the first language is French.  My mother who grew up in a bilingual home herself (her mother was French Canadian and her Father was American) spoke to us in English at home, though my grandmother spoke to us in French and I replied in English and this was how it was for the first few years.  Through my grandmother’s teachings I learned how to count to 72 (not 73 but 72!) in French, I knew how to ask general questions, I understood the language but only if you spoke slowly (heck I was just 6 or 7) So in spite of the first two years being very difficult being in a 100% French school I continued my education in French up until graduation.  Today I can honestly say I’m so happy Mom did that for me I’m thrilled to be fully bilingual in both languages with no accent!

Number 2 – I met my husband on Myspace.  Yes that’s right I had joined Myspace in 2006 because at the time I had heard Lindsay Lohan had an account and I thought wow movie stars go on this site! So cool!  So I created an account and put up my best picture.  One day a man wrote me, he had a big dragon tattoo on his back as his profile picture and very politely asked me to be his friend.  This was the first gentlemanly request I  had received.  I looked at his profile page, expecting some serious rock’n roll type of photos and there was this very handsome guy on a Harley and pictures of his kids, granddaughter, his Mom, flowers in his garden, his artwork and more lovey romantic things…you could clearly see he was a good man with lots of love and passion in his life.  So I said heck yes I’ll be your friend and we started talking every night online, fell in love (in 2 days) and got married 1 year and 2 months later. (this is the Readers Digest version of our story).

Number 3 – I will be celebrating 14 years of sobriety from alcohol (and drugs) on November 11th of this year.  I was a seriously heavy drinker from my late teens into my early to mid-thirties.  I drank from morning till I passed out.  I was the one nobody thought would get sober and in 1999 after numerous attempts at getting sober I went to an in house treatment center for 6 months.  I did not leave the treatment center for the first 2 months then after that I went home every second weekend then every weekend.  I learned a lot about myself and addiction.  Today I am an active member of a 12 step fellowship program as well as a very spiritual person who is constantly trying to improve my life and connection with a higher power.

Number 4 – There are two things about driving that cause me anxiety.  One being I don’t enjoy driving on the highway.  I started driving about two years after I got sober so I was in my mid thirties and just never developed the drivers passion so to speak.  I do drive, I drive every day as a matter of fact and yes I do enjoy it for the most part as long as highways and snow storms aren’t involved.  I will take the highway when I have to, if I don’t have to I don’t.  Whenever I’m on the highway I get a slight case of anxiety and hold onto the steering wheel a little too tightly but I do it.  The second thing is driving during snowstorms.   I think I dislike that more than highway driving but last year I must have driven in each and every snowstorm we had here in Montreal so it helped my driving skills in snowstorms immensely.  I still get anxious but I do what I have to do and it does get easier.

Number 5 – I gained over 150 pounds in less than 18 months back in October 2005.  I remember it was the Fall and I had my first real food binge, it was a box of low calorie ice cream sandwiches, I ate the whole box in less than 10 minutes.  I don’t know why since I had what I thought was great willpower, I was so unhappy with my life at that time and did not know how to cope.  I didn’t do 12 step meetings, I didn’t talk to my friends, I didn’t have a coach, I dealt with my own suffering on my own and I felt like crap.  I had not met my husband yet, I was so depressed, I quit my job and ate snack cakes and junk food like they were my lifeline.  I was  gaining on an average 10 pounds a month and I went from a size 3 to a  size 24 in 18 months.  I was an extremist to say the least.  I carried that weight and yo-yo dieted for the next 6.5 years until I found a healthy solution and worked on what was going on inside of me as opposed to outside of me.

So there you go, those are 5 things that you probably didn’t know about me.  I hope you enjoyed this post as much as I did writing it.  If you’d like to talk you can comment below or send me an email by going to the contact page or replying in the email that brought you here.  Please know that I would genuinely love to hear from you!

Thank you for being here, I am grateful for you!

To your health with love

Robyn

 

 

9 Responses to 5 Things You Didn’t Know About ME!

  • Hélène Morin says:

    Bonjour Robyn,

    I’m so glad that you speak French!

    Un gros merci pour ton partage de 5 éléments à propos de toi.

    J’ai également une surcharge pondérale (overweight) et cela me tue. J’ai des mood swings, c’est difficile pour mon mari. À chaque remarque qu’il me fait, je le prends de travers et je me mets à chialer. Tout cela parce que je ne suis pas bien avec mon corps.

    Cette année j’ai compris que j’avais quand même un beau visage, à 44 ans c’était temps! Mais je suis très complexée de mon corps, je voudrais me cacher sometimes.

    Je suis en générale une fille très active, qui aime bouger, je mange santé même raw à plusieurs reprises par semaine et rarement de la viande. Mais je scrappe le tout avec des chips, poutine, pizza, desserts etc. Donc, je me décourage et la roue continue. Avec les connaissances que j’aies, j’ai honte d’être toutoune.

    Avec tout cela tu vois sûrement la question venir: Comment t’es-tu disciplinée à perdre tes kilos en trop?

    Merci encore une fois.

    Hélène Morin

    • Robyn says:

      Hélène je peux te comprendre à plusieurs niveaux. Il ne faut pas avoir honte, il y a plusieurs raisons qu’on mange la cochonnerie et il y a des manières d’arrêter aussi, lentement mais sûrement, il ne faut pas être pressé! Dites-toi que ce n’est pas trop tard d’améliorer ta santé et commencer à t’aimer et t’apprécier. Si jamais ça t’intéresse on peut se parler au téléphone. Est-ce que tu es une québécoise ?

  • Janet says:

    Thank you for being so open about yourself. I am becoming more and more aware that we all have issues and anxieties that affect how we go about in the world, this helps me to not feel so lonely in my struggles with weight. You are doing good things here and I wish you all the best.

    • Robyn says:

      Thank you for your support and kind words Janet! Remember you’re not alone,you just need to find the right fit for you. I always suggest to people to start eating whole foods and drop the “diet” foods. You will feel full longer if you eat real food and least that’s what worked for me. I’ll be posting on that in an upcoming blog post, stay tuned :)

  • Lisa says:

    Wow. I so enjoyed this! I’m sitting here in disbelief because we have so much in common!
    Thank you so much for sharing. I find you very intriguing and delightful. I loved listening to you on those calls/interviews recently and I am so honored to know some of your story. (well 5 fantastic things at least). Again, thanks for sharing. Talk soon I hope!

    • Robyn says:

      Hi Lisa,

      I sent you a reply in the contact form, I’d love to talk with you! Thank you for sharing and reaching out! It means a lot to me!

  • Eldred says:

    Robyn – how did you find out what what going on inside you re: the overeating? I’m still struggling with overeating and being overweight, but not knowing what the gift(or benefit) of that behavior is…

  • Robyn says:

    Hi Eldred, thanks for stopping by, I’ll be covering this topic next month on my free video training series but I can tell you that it’s not something that happens overnight. One thing that helped me was being aware of my feelings during mealtimes (or snack times). I would ask myself what had just happened that made me want to eat this whole pizza/cake/lasagna. Being aware didn’t stop me right away but it slowed me down and made me think about what was going on within me in relation to my surroundings (past or present) and feelings.

    There were many different triggers like people, places or things but slowly I started to recognize what set off my feelings which resulted in the urge to overeat, then still slowly I started making better choices and personally for me I avoided certain trigger foods.

    It’s a process, sometimes slow, sometimes less slow, but a process.

    I hope this helps…

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