Cultivating Self-Love and Positive Body Image

Monthly Archives: November 2013

In this weeks post I will share with you three simple and yet very effective ways I manage to introduce exercise in my daily life.  Since I work sitting at my desk I have to find ways to get the blood flowing and keep my limbs happy by moving my body around.

1. Dance like nobody is watching

I have a confession here, I love to dance, which in itself is not a big deal it’s just that I love to dance while at home listening to galaxy music on the tv or playing a few songs on my smartphone .  I try to dance for 10 to 15 minutes and when I do, I dance like nobody is watching (because nobody is).  I do this because heck I’ve always done it, since I was a teen I’d just dance while I played records and when I was a young adult I moved in with my best friend and again we’d play records (Leif Garrett anyone) and just dance.  I feel so good when I’m dancing and almost feel like I’m one of the best Solid Gold Dancers out there (I’m aging myself).  Dancing is not only good for my body but it sure does my self-esteem good too.  Now if I look like Elaine from Seinfeld so shall be it, I’m happy and helped my body.

2. Walk this way

Now I know a few weeks back I covered the benefits of walking but I thought this would be a great reminder at how it does the body and soul good.   Just grab your smartphone and play your favorite music or books while on your trek or maybe even silence and just listen to your thoughts or try not to think at all.  I love walking because it’s a wonderful form of escape for me and helps me feel good inside and out.  Sometimes I like to take my mini-doxie out for walks with me, he loves the exercise.  I love to walk outside during the spring, summer or fall, even in the winter if it’s not too cold or bitter outside.  I get on my walking shoes and comfortable clothes and I go out and walk. I like to have a goal, a place to walk up to and turn back but that’s just me, you do what feels right for you, just move that body.

3. Walk at Home

Ok when it’s bitter cold, I don’t go out for that walk, but I walk at home.  I fell madly in love with this workout about 10 years ago, I’ve already mentioned this before it’s Leslie Sansone’s Walk away the Pounds Series.  What I love about Leslie’s workouts is that you can do a one mile walk in 15 minutes (or a 2 mile walk in 30) and they are easy, she has four basic steps that you follow that are easy for almost anyone.  You can level up, I believe Leslie has up to 5 miles, I’ve done the 4 miles and I always get great results when I work out with her.  Please don’t let the easy steps fool you, it’s a workout, you get your blood pumping and your body moving and you feel good and accomplished at the end of the workout.

Another great bonus is that Leslie offers free workouts on her website so you can check them out.  Personally I have many of her videos and DVDs and now that the cold weather is starting I am more often doing a Leslie workout than going outside.

I like to workout a minimum of 3-4 week, it depends on my schedule, I’m not too hard on myself but if I’m too busy one day I think what’s 30 minutes and I pick a two mile workout and just do it.

That’s it for this weeks post!  Have yourself a great week, I know I will!

To your health with Love


14 years clean and sober

Today’s post is an extra special one for me.  On Monday, November 11, 2013 I will be by the Grace of God 14 years clean and sober.  That’s 14 wonderful years free of drug and alcohol abuse, free from emotional abuse, free from bondage of self.

Whenever my sober anniversary comes around I always think back at what my life was like before that fateful november day when I decided I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.  There was no more relief in the drinking, I couldn’t escape any longer.  I had just gotten out of an unhealthy relationship (ok I was thrown out of the relationship) and went on a drinking binge of all binges.  I put my safety and  life in danger many times during those months and I simply just didn’t want to go on any longer.

I started drinking at a young age, I even remember my first taste, I was 6 it was a beer and I thought it was disgusting.  I drank during my teen years like most of my peers, nothing out of the ordinary, though I did drink till I got drunk but I could go without a drink for weeks, months or even years.  Once I turned 17 things changed.  I fell into drugs and drinking and drinking turned into my first love.  I won’t lie, I had some great times for sure especially in the early years and yes there were some ups and downs but I still loved the bottle.  Drugs took a back seat, they weren’t my passion, alcohol was.  As the years and my drinking progressed, I was getting worse and worse and so was my health.  I had esophagus problems, liver problems, living problems.  I quit my job to drink full time, work was getting in the way or so I told myself.  Meanwhile I was living with someone who drank like I did and we all know how that ended.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

Many of you who follow my blog know that I went into treatment for 6 months in an in-house treatment facility.  At first I thought I would go for 30 days and get some rest, I had pneumonia, I was exhausted, I was sick and I needed a break… I mostly needed a break from me.  I went through a really dark period before going to treatment and maybe one day I’ll be able to share that with you but not today.

I lived in this treatment facility with 9 to 12 women throughout the six months.  I was the first graduate, those that came before me had fallen before their treatment was over.  There were others who graduated after me but fell.  I feel blessed and lucky that I have stayed clean and sober.  I had made friends, friends I still have today.  It’s funny how I wanted to run from myself, get some rest and try not to drink for awhile.  Instead I found myself, got some rest and have remained sober these last 14 years.

Was there temptation along the way?  Yes, 2 years into my sobriety I was living with a man who to this day has struggled with drug and alcohol abuse.  He was a few weeks sober when we met, though I was told he had long term sobriety.  Almost 2 years into our relationship he relapsed hard and I considered for a brief 15 minutes to join him.  He was asleep on our couch as his drugs and alcohol laid out on our kitchen table and I thought how easy it would be to join him but I had just celebrated 2 years of sobriety and a little voice inside of me simply did not want to risk that I may not be able to stop again.  So I called AA and went to a meeting and stayed sober.  What happened to the guy?  He’s still out there drinking, drugging and struggling… I say a prayer for him every single night.

There but for the grace of God, go I…

Now is the time to celebrate, I celebrate the fact that I was once broken and today I am whole.  I am no longer obsessed with the thought of drinking, I am no longer thirsty, I no longer want to hide from myself and others.

In these last 14 years I’ve had ups and downs but I can handle them and even if something is off or too much, I don’t feel the need to drink.  Life today is lots of fun, I feel great about myself and all that I’ve accomplished and I still continue to grow.  I am very different from that young woman who I used to be who suffered for years and just wanted to destroy herself.  You can’t imagine how much I’ve changed.  Those that knew me then would never have bet on Robyn getting sober, much less staying sober.   I did have to cut some people out of my life, I did it in order to survive.  I chose me.

I choose me every day, I choose to pick my battles, I try to do what’s right, I live an honest life, I rely on a higher power who I call God.  I’m quite happy actually and on the days I’m not, I work on it, I use the tools and get right minded.

Thank you for reading this post today, it means a lot to me and if there is something you’d like to share, you can either hit the reply button on the email I sent to you, you can post a comment below or click on the “Let’s talk” Box on the bottom right.  I’m pretty much an open book and would love to know if I can be of service to you and remember…

To thine own self be true…



swc healthy snackAs I write this post both my husband and I have what we refer to as “the munchies”.  We each ate three healthy meals today and yet both of us sit here thinking “I’m hungry”.

Now to give you a bit of a background on both of us and I don’t know if I mentioned this already and it’s a bit off topic but Hubby has lost over 80 pounds since April 2012.  He followed the same healthy eating plan as I did and just dropped the weight like it was nobody’s business.  He weighed 265 pounds when we started and now weighs less than 180 pounds.  He’s tall, 6 foot 1 and he says that he’s as slim as he’s ever been since his 20′s.

I personally have maintained a 100 pound weight loss for the last 6 months, before this weight loss I had spent many years binging on sugar and grains.  Since I have lost the 100 pounds I have tried hard not to make eating a bad experience in any shape or form.  If I want to eat something I will, if I don’t, I won’t.  After living way too many years with feelings of shame towards food and my own hunger, I refuse to live that way now.  So if I want a snack I will have one.

We don’t often have the munchies, usually dinner is our last meal of the day and that’s it.  We are pretty good about eating a healthy balanced dinner with lots of vegetables, proteins and healthy fats.  We don’t even have dessert unless you consider the cup of coffee we have on Friday nights as dessert.  But every once in a while the munchies strike and we don’t over analyze it, we don’t hem and haw about it, we don’t feel guilt or shame about it.  We simply have a little snack.

When the munchies strike me it’s simple how I handle it, I’ll take a fruit (bananas, grapes or strawberries preferably) or maybe a handful of raw almonds or a piece of old cheddar cheese.  That’s it.  I don’t need anything else to keep the munchies at bay.  These foods (not at the same time) fill my belly up and shut that munchie monster right down and all is well.

As for Hubby, when the munchies strike him he handles it a bit differently; for instance he’s been known to grab a bunch of fruits and vegetables and put them thru the juicer and chug that glass down.  I’m not a fan of juicing myself but he is and he loves the energy that it gives him afterwards.  He’s also a lover of yogurt and not the low-fat type either (it’s getting harder and harder these days to find yogurt that isn’t low/no fat).  He too is a lover of bananas and I’m willing to bet they are his favorite snack.  I also buy him granola bars, he loves them, I only buy them for him because he likes them and they seem to shut his munchy monster up.  I don’t eat the bars myself  and as he has told me; he has not sworn to a life of eating whole foods only (I try to eat only whole foods I would say at least 90% of the time ).  He tries to eat healthy and just as I won’t feel guilty for eating a healthy snack he won’t feel guilty for eating a packaged granola bar.

I love that we have managed to learn to not only eat in a healthy way that we both love but we have also learned how to snack moderately without any guilt or shame.  How does it get any better than this?

What do you do when the munchies strike?  What are your go-to snacks that you love to eat?  Please share by posting a comment below.

To your health